What if a society has the survival / narcissistic trait of speaking only from his/her point of view?
That due to circumstances, history - the survival strategy stayed with one’s own attitude and perspective.
Yet , in society it became normalized as the way people speak to one another.
It became normalized that in this particular case either conflict was fought or avoided.
It became normalized to speak of different words and perspectives to each other as communication.
There was no example strong enough to show another way, speaking directly to what someone else has to say, same words and focus, just different perspective .
What if society managed to continue and operate in this manner.
When things needed getting done, it was very hierarchical, controlled and rigid.
When things were more of a personal nature there was always two sides, arguing.
Misunderstanding and ultimately emotion or collapse.
What if survival taught this society that in times of war and difficulty, all emotions were put aside, strict organization was needed, hierarchy and rigidity with courage and bravery of course.
What if this society was under two great wars and then they fought the mental war of being left out, being nobody, having no agency except where it was shown.
Effectively, fighting to be clever in resistance or collapsing to a lack of conflict and having yo always be on the move in physical action, in mental action.
What if society never could relax in their movements, in their brains and in there talking about the only thing really advertised.. politics.
Always a debate and a fight or a collapse.
What if society indeed continued to survive and became very very resilient at these characteristics.
What if prosperity came to society yet the habits of “not enough” , “ keep going” , “it must be this way” kept playing as a silent rumination in their heads.
What if people had the habit that to be seen and recognized meant explaining to others how each’s point of view is.
What if society was caught in the habit of speaking who each person is and how is their perspective .
What if society never had the example of “allowance” rather than “pushing”.
What if society was never given the chance to be wrong or to fail and for this act to be okay.
What if failure in society was most often met with the other persons habitual form of communication, telling each other how they would, could or should do it rather than encouraging the other to discover and give allowance for mistakes or failure.
What if only children brought emotion and laughter and then they were swallowed up by the schools and society.
The children effectively silenced to their own spirit.
What if the parent actually only listened to the child and repeated back what the child told them.
What if the parent knew the answer but instead asked questions which might lead the child to an the answer on their own rather than being told what the answer is.
What would it take to for the society to hold their own comments in their own way of thinking and listen to the other person.
What would it take for society to gain trust and acceptance that each will be given a moment to speak and be focused on themselves in their own turn, because everyone gets a turn.
Everyone deserves a turn to be focused on, to discuss only their topic, their choice of words and perspective.
What would it take for people in society to start changing their old habits of rigidity and self perspective and pushing to be seen vs openness, allowance and an acceptance that knows each will have their chance to be seen and be considered important in their own perspective and manner of seeing.
They don’t have to fight, they don’t have to push.
What if society actually was curious and excited to hear what each other had to say, knowing and experiencing that each also had people excited and curious to hear their own unique point of view.
What would it take to change the habits people acquired through generations of displacement, dissociation, neglect and survival?
What could be the catalyst sending off a chain reaction of opening to a different way of acting and speaking and listening.
What would be the holy grail that not only has a society able and acting on its own national survival and threat from the outside but also able to communicate and allow for each persons uniqueness in a family, in a community.
Working to see others and also be seen without fighting, without pushing but with the trust and acceptance each is included and will be given their chance to express in allowance, for each person and for everyone.